Working on your Self-Concept is everything! The first quarter is done! The first quarter flew by. It is April already I cannot believe it. How have the first few months been for you?For me, there have been a lot of changes. I started my apprenticeship! I’m still processing the fact that I have to work and go to university.My schedule…
NO = Next opportunities Hearing no isn’t always a bad thing. Hi, everyone. I hope you are all well. A lot has changed since my last post. I have left my job as a mental health personal independence coordinator. I must say, I have been blessed with the opportunity to be in a role for over a year, which I…
Hi guys, Happy New Year, and welcome to 2023. I say welcome to 2023 as we are about to enter February Ha.I know its been a while since I last posted. A month but it feels longer; as we all know, January can feel like the longest month ever! I hope you all had a great festive season. Mine was…
Can you believe that we are saying Goodbye, 2022?! As I continue to get older, I feel like time is escaping me at a rapid pace. I know it has been some time since I recently posted, and if you follow me on Instagram @confidantcandy, you know I have been struggling with balancing everything. The last few weeks, in particular,…
ADHD and its relationship with trauma Trauma has been showing its face I walked home later than usual for work a couple of weeks ago. I haven’t been driving as my car is out of service; not my fault, and that is a story for a different day. I was about to cross the road, I looked both ways and…
Many adults diagnosed with ADHD are left untreated. What is ADHD? ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition that can start as early as childhood. Many adults are diagnosed with ADHD, not realising how it may have impacted them early on. Some adults, like me, were left untreated and diagnosed later in life. I was diagnosed at the age of 26. Upon…
ADHDers do you struggle with communication? For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with communication. I was always the shy, quiet kid that kept to herself and didn’t demand the attention of the room as soon as I walked in it. My mother thought that it was just a ‘phase’ and soon I will grow out of…
Do you believe that you are stuck in a rut? Me too! Lately, I feel as if I have been stuck in a rut for some time now. What is a rut?For me, being stuck in a rut is like being stuck in the mud, and you feel like you can’t get out of it.Being in a rut is doing…
10 September marks World Suicide Prevention Day. Did you know that almost a million people commit suicide each year? Suicide impacts the whole community, loved ones, services, and country. It is a topic that needs to be discussed with an open mindset and more often. Unfortunately, there is still a stigma around the topic of suicide however, the more we…
Goodbye August! Goals for September? Let’s Go! Isn’t it crazy how fast the year is flying by? The end of summer is here, and we are now getting ready for autumn. Time to get back to goal setting. I must say summer is my favourite season: The kids are out of school, so there is less traffic on the road.…
Lately, I Feel Like I Have Been Existing, Not Living What does it mean by simply existing? To me, existing means just doing what you need to do to get by. That can include: – Working – Eating – Breathing – Running errands – Doing anything to survive, but if you want to compare it to something, the basic needs in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Most of the…
As some may know, last year was an overwhelming year for me—the loss of love. I experienced a lot of loss, but I learned so much, and you know what I like to say it’s not a failure, it’s a lesson. “Life is one big lesson”. Towards the end of 2021, I told myself that I would do everything in my power to get out…
Living Solo Has Been So Good For My Wellbeing- The most valuable lesson In May of this year, I moved out of my mama’s crib, and I am not looking back.I started hunting for my first apartment in January of this year. I had an idea in mind of what I was looking for: • 1 bedroom ideally; I saw…
Lessons I learned during my 26 years around the sun 1. I don’t have everything figured out yet…and that is fine. I have ideas. When I was in my early teens, I thought that by my twenties, I would have life figured out; I would be in my OWN home; the market is mad, and London is very expensive. Lesson…
Remember who I am? I am the owner of this blog that I have been neglecting for months. I took some time unintentionally as I struggled to find time to sit down and dedicate uninterrupted time to write posts and get my life together, but it is somewhat together now. Can I get an Amen?! A lot has been going…
How My ADHD Presents At Work Some of you may know that I am a mental health personal independence coordinator (MHPIC); I work with individuals who have severe mental health issues or need that extra emotional support. The aim of my job is to conduct assessment tools to rate individuals’ current being (looking at them holistically) and then depending on…
6 Helpful Techniques On How To Calm An Anxiety Attack I was driving on the parkway to my then boyfriend’s house singing along to the radio when traffic started to slow down considerably. I eventually saw a cop car parked ON the parkway perpendicular to the lanes in the road. The policeman was directing all vehicles to take the nearby…
This year was my first valentine’s single as a pringle Honestly, part of me is like okay! Less stress, I can save myself some money and I be the hermit that I want to be and stay up in my bed all day. It is one of my favourite places in the world. And then, I get really melancholic and…
Why it is important to protect your peace This is what we are doing all 2022, a matter of fact for the rest of this lifetime protecting your peace is so key for your wellbeing. If we don’t protect our peace, it can increase our stress, makes us miserable and even impact our physical health. Ways to protect your peace…
Would you describe yourself as a confident person? Confidence is undeniable, indestructible and friggin necessary. Confidence is trusting in yourself and believing that you are worth it.Confidence is walking in the room and claiming your beauty unapologetically. Each day will have its obstacles hence confidence levels may not always be often at an all-time high and that is ok. Struggling…
And just like that, we have entered 2022. 2022! That is wild. The past two years have been filled with life lessons: lessons that have shaped me and helped me mature, be more grateful and has sown me how resilient I am. If you would like to know more about the lessons, I have learnt be sure to check out…
2021; it has been a ride I am shocked at how fast 2021 flew by. The other night, I was getting ready to write in my journal, and I came across the journal entry I wrote on 31st December 2020. Check it out: So many things came to my mind; where I was mentally (I mean, we were in a…
It is me or has the Christmas spirit dwindled substantially from December 20219? With all that is going on, it is kind of difficult to be like woooah, each, Merry Christmas is here!But alas, we are here. We have made it and so we should be grateful. In a nutshell, this year has been chaotic and beyond anything, I thought…
What does it mean to be content? Being content is the peaceful vibe you get when you appreciate what is happening. Feeling satisfied with life regardless of what is going on is hard, but it is beautiful when you feel content. I am content with where I am right now I haven’t felt like this in a long while, and…
Do you trust people easily? For me, trust is something so precious and vulnerable. It believes that people are who they say they are; it is trusting their words and actions. It relies on them to do what they say and act accordingly within their character. Having faith in people and hoping that they will stay true to who they…
Have you had counselling before? Do you miss it? As part of my healing journey, I have decided to go back to counselling Why counselling? Because l like to rant, express myself and get things off my chest. When I was around the age of 20/21, I had counselling for the first time. I had roughly three or four months…
What is grief? Dealing with the loss of a loved one is incredibly hard. Coming to terms with the fact that you never see them again, talking to them again is a difficult pill to swallow. It is a process that will not go away; grief will not go away but will become easier to cope with time. They say…
What is accountability? Put simply accountability is the ability, obligation and willingness to accept responsibility for one’s actions. Taking accountability may not always be easy, especially if you mess up in a significant way. Sometimes we need to save face, look good and act like we are perfect in all fields. But that is not realistic. As you enter a…
Do You Know What ADHD Is? Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a behavioural condition that impacts an individuals behaviour. According to NHS, most people with ADHD are diagnosed between the age of 6-12. It is a common disorder in childhood. However, more adults are being diagnosed with ADHD compared to a decade ago. Symptoms of ADHD include disorganization, poor…
Being Uncomfortable Is Necessary In Order To Grow One thing that you need to know about growth is that it is uncomfortable. To evolve and become the best version of yourself, you cannot stay in the same comfort zone, doing the same things over time and time again. It will halt your growth. Trust me. Now I am going to…
Guilt is one of the things I constantly carry with me Simply put, guilt is a feeling we get when we regret something we have said and/or done. If we feel guilt, I believe it is an evident sign that we have a conscience. Psychological symptoms of guild include: Low self-esteem, feeling overwhelmed, anxiety, and in some cases, it can…
Working in Mental Health Is Not An Easy Feat Recently, I quit my role as a support worker for several reasons: Lack of organisation within management. Long hours, limited time for actual breaks. The job was not as advertised. Underpaid for the amount of work that I had to do. But I may go into the ins and outs in…
Learning never stops With all of the life changes going on from breakups to a new job, there is a lot that I have noticed and I am learning a lot about myself during these past couple of months. It is never too late to learn and use situations to grow and adapt. School is a great place to learn…
Finding your voice It is safe to say that this world has changed tremendously. The influx of social media makes people more interconnected to pandemics changing how we work, live, and conduct ourselves. It is safe to say that we live in a crazy, chaotic world. It can be pretty scary and can cause people to quiet their voice as…
What is manifestation? Manifestation is the process of thinking and inviting something into your life; you are attracting it by your thoughts and belief system. Books such as the secret and the law of attraction are great books that delve into this with excerpts of how people have applied it to their lives and what became of their strong belief.…
I am New to relationship drama- I have Never Had To Get Over A BreakUp Before When I was thinking of what to write for my next post because I honestly had no idea. Then my relationship ended; my boyfriend of three years broke up with me. Initially, I was shocked. I did know what to say. I was silent…
Many things make me anxious but I am learning to control it At some point, we will all be anxious. For others, it is manageable but for some, it may become debilitating and impact how we live our daily lives. Over the years, I have learnt to dealt with things that cause my anxiety head-on, identify possible triggers which have…
What is physiotherapy? Physiotherapy aims to help people impacted by disability, injury to restore movement and, in turn, create a better quality of life. This can be done by advising patients and giving them exercises to encourage movement. It gives patients the autonomy to have control over their care. In addition, it may help prevent more injuries. According to Statisa,…
Feeling Better Is What We All Want, Right? Feeling good is what we all desire. Feeling good about your body, your career, your relationships, your life overall.It boosts your confidence and makes you feel happy about where you are in life. If you read my last post, you’ll know that I have been quite low, and I believed that I…
What Is Depression? Depression is classified as a mental health disorder whereby an individual experiences a constant low mood that may impact daily routines. At some point, we all may experience a time when we are not feeling our best mentally, but when it comes to depression, the low moods may last a considerable amount of time. How many people…
Do you lack motivation? I do. At this moment, I lack the motivation I used to have. Motivation is key to get a lot of things done; we need it to get up and go to work when we don’t want to. For a couple of months now, I have struggled with being motivated as I was used to. If…
What Lessons Have You Learnt So Far? If you are reading this today (23rd of July 2021), it’s my birthday! I’m 25. Well, actually 25+1, but does 2020 count?! So far, does this year count?! (I don’t think so, not yet anyway) Honestly, I can’t believe that I am 26 years old. I am shocked. Why, I hear you ask?…
If anything that the pandemic has taught me is that you need to make your health a priority. When I say health, I refer to your physical (beautiful body) that you have to travel this world. Health is more than looking healthy. It’s about feeling healthy! No one wants to go through life where they are constantly in pain. This…
Did You Know That Lack Of Sleep Can Have A Detrimental Impact On Your Well-being? I definitely have a lack of sleep! I can’t seem to get enough of it! I love my bed, and I need to sleep more than chill in bed. Throughout the pandemic, I got really good at chilling in bed more than actually sleeping in…
Do You Struggle To Be Confident All The Time? Being confident in yourself is something that I hope we all can accomplish. I say accomplish because I believe that it is a task that takes time, commitment and patience to gain. Growing up, I struggled with my confidence. During my high school years, I was bullied for some time. Little…
Do you have a chaotic work life? Recently, I started working as a support worker, working with young people with an experience of trauma and, in some cases, mental health conditions. The job itself is not for the weak. It is consuming and at times quite emotionally draining. If you would like to know about the importance of support workers,…
Do You Have A Bunch Of Regrets? Having many regrets can be the thief of joy. Super optimistic people may say that you can live a happy and carefree life, which is easy to obtain. Let me break it to you. It is not! It is possible to live a great life, but we will all come across situations that…
What Is The Role Of A Support Worker? The role of a support worker is to look after and provide care to people in need to cater to their overall well-being. A support worker aims to enable individuals to live as independently as possible. In some cases, support workers have to provide personal care to those who cannot do it…
Mental Health Support Is Needed In All Environments Workplaces can be a source of stress for many, which may play a role in the onset of some mental health disorders. A substantial one in four people will have a mental health problem in the UK alone. That is a lot of employees. Many people may be predisposed to mental health…
Sometimes, work can be isolating especially for a newbie Being back at work can take some adjusting to. Since May 2019, I have not worked a full time position. My last full time position was as a support worker. Although, it wasnt a standard 9-5, it was on a rota basis. It was a lot of work. Since then I…
How The Pandemic Changed My Life Pandemic- you can leave now.Let’s keep it really real. The pandemic has caused so much chaos: jobs, life and everything in between.Why is the pandemic still here?!I thought we would have left the pandemic in 2020. But here we are still with the bullshit. Little did we know how things would go as we…
Negativity is one of the biggest obstacles to growth Growth is not a linear process. It is stressful, we may come across a bit of negativity and sometimes it’s an overwhelming process. Negativity may come in the form of things and people. What may be deemed as negativity may differ between people.Negativity in people is when they have a closed…
What Is Mental Health? According to the World Heath Organisation (WHO), mental health is “a state of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community”. It is the psychological part of an…
Balance is key! As we resume ‘normalcy’ and reopen to the world, life will get busier as we are allowed back outside. The responsibilities didn’t pause throughout lockdown but now that we can be somewhat more social while still practising social distance. Now, having the ability to see people whilst maintain our schedules can be hectic. Having many things on…
What is Anxiety? Anxiety is a mental health disorder that impacts millions of people. According to Mind, 1 in 4 people will experience some kind of mental health each year in England alone. Anxiety causes negative feelings and thoughts that can create physical and emotional symptoms in the body. If you would like to know more about anxiety, click the…
Habits are key to change your mindset What are habits?Habits are decisions, big or small, that you carry out every day. Your current habits (reading my blog, which I appreciate, thank you!) determine and shape how your life is today. Every aspect of your life; your eating habits, how you talk to people, how physically active you are, what your…
You have got to be yourself! I’m sure that you have heard the saying, “Be yourself”, “No one can be you, so just be yourself.” It is easier said than done. Especially during these times with the influence of social media. Not a day goes by without you going on social media unless you have superhuman strength and resist it.I…
What is self-sabotaging? Self-sabotage is the thought patterns and behaviour that stop you from living your best life.It is letting the negative voice is your head (that we all have) win every time. ‘I can’t do this’‘I don’t deserve this promotion’‘Why does this happen to me every time?’ It can be a revolving door; the repetitive negative thought patterns which…
What is imposter syndrome? Imposter syndrome (IS) is an overwhelming feeling and belief that we are not worthy or don’t believe that we are as successful or established as others know us to be. Imposter syndrome, also known as the imposter phenomenon, was first introduced by psychologists Suzanne Imes and Pauline Rose Clance in 1978. The beginning of imposter syndrome…
What is ‘purpose?’ According to our good old friend Google, purpose is one’s reason and intention for which they do something within psychology, their hierarchy of needs. Maslow, who proposed the hierarchy of needs, introduced this theory in 1943. Within the hierarchy of needs, there are 5 categories that every human needs: Psychological needs, safety, belonging and love, esteem and…
What does anxiety at work look like? First of all, what is anxiety? Anxiety is a feeling of unease that can leave you feeling fearful and worried about what may happen. We all will experience some form of anxiety in our lifetime. For some, this may be moderate or severe. If you would like to know more about anxiety, and…
What is Self-Love? Self-love, simply put, is prioritising your happiness and overall well being. This means putting your wellness first and not sacrificing your mental state to make others feel better at your expense. Everyone may have a different meaning of self-love. Spending quality time alone gives you space and time to discover different ways to take care of yourself.…
What valuable lessons have you read about mental health? Lessons about my mental health have been learnt during the substantial time spent at home due to quarantine. What is mental health? Mental health is what we all have to deal with in one way or another. It may also be known as emotional wellbeing. It is how we feel overall;…
What is Depression? Depression is a constant, low mood that has an impact on your everyday life. Yes, everyone has ups and downs; however, with depression, the lows are long-lasting. In the UK alone, depression affects one in 10 people during their lifetime. Taraji P. Henson spoke out about depression to Variety in 2018: “I suffer from depression. I have…
What are you looking forward to once lockdown ends and covid goes away? I need to get out of this house, go away lockdown! These past two years have been a lot to deal with emotionally but throwing Covid in the mix is not ideal. Although I am very much OVER lockdown, I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learnt thus…
Mental Illness- Let’s talk about the myths Regarding mental illness, depression is one of the leading causes of disability across the globe. “In low- and middle-income countries, between 76% and 85% of people with mental disorders receive no treatment for their disorder.” People are currently talking about mental illness more and more, which is great as it encourages people to…
Self-care can be super affordable! What is self care? Self-care is taking actionable steps to ensure that you keep healthy and fit. It is paying attention to you! What does your body need? What does your mind need to be the best that it can be? It is important to take care of ourselves as we only get one body…
What is the 365-day challenge? This challenge will consist of catering to your wellbeing every single day of 2021. Yes, every single day. Wellness will include doing everything to uplift you and make you feel good. What does the challenge involve? During this challenge, I will show you guys what I do to keep my vibrations high and/or raise them…
What is Anxiety? Anxiety is a range of negative thoughts, feelings and experiences. It is a type of fear that manifests creating unwanted thoughts. It is what we feel when we become afraid of what may happen. Ryan Reynolds opened about the anxiety he experienced whilst filming Deadpool. “I never slept. Or I was sleeping at a perfect right angle…
